Boundaries in dating online book
And when you are ready to make a commitment then consider getting to know someone well, perhaps by starting a friendship with him and then when are you more aware of him and his character, then you can start thinking of dating (courtship) that person.
Dating when you are not ready to make a commitment is useless and there’s no point if it -at the time- and in fact it can prevent you from focusing on building yourself and your future. It is a blessing and you can use it well for personal & spiritual growth.
Also, I'm always sort of "eh" on anything with an overarching faith-based approach to self-help.
This one grated on my nerves less than I was expecting – much less."You will have a good relationship to the degree that you are able to be clear and honest about everything.""People who can handle confrontation and feedback are the ones who can make relationships work.""Many people try to change their patterns all on their own, using willpower, discipline, resolve, and the like. A desire to change is generally not enough, or we would have changed before...(Colossians ).
And they are devastated or lose hope when they find themselves having long-term conflicts...
Give up the demand that your relationship be conflict-free, get over it, and go to the next step.""Does your date know how you feel about how he treats you?
Or do you minimize it, make excuses for it, or simply give him the silent treatment, hoping he will get the message?
Dating can help you know more about yourself, your character issues and allows you to make a change and achieve personal growth before making a long term commitment to someone.
This book doesn't require you to be able to make a commitment to someone to start dating. However, I think if the person doesn't start dating early –when he’s not ready for a commitment yet- and focus more on personal and spiritual growth, many character flows can be dealt with and healed before even the dating is started which would reduce a lot the dating/relationship problems and issues.